Too many times, people get tired of working on the relationship they are currently in and feel that by moving on to another person, they will find greener pastures. This is just not the case. What happens is when you move to another person, things are fresh, new, and exciting just as they were in the beginning of your current relationship. Within time, that relationship will also start experiencing differences and bumps in the road.
Unless you are being abused or your mate is doing something illegal or completely irresponsible, perhaps the efforts you would put into starting a new relationship would be better spent fixing the one you have.
Ron and Shawn make up the “Odd Couple.” We are a husband and wife team who have been together for the last 27 years. We have laugh, cried, fought, made up, and made more mistakes then any two people could. Through it all we have raised the greatest three kids in the world! We would like to offer you a free report we put together titled 10 Marriage Help Tips Report with video. Click here for the link. Here is a picture of us at the World Famous Ft Worth, TX Stockyards.
Love your blog Shawn! My husband & I both work from home (in a shared office space) and we’re home-schooling 3 of our boys (the oldest just graduated). I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else, even after being together 24/7 for almost 2 years now (we’ve been married for 11 & 1/2 years).
Jenny that is so great to hear. My hubby & I don’t work together (we are working towards that goal) we also homeschooled for 11 yrs. with the baby graduating a couple of years ago. Can’t imagine walking this journey of life without anyone but my hubby. Congrats on 11 1/2 yrs of marriage.
I can’t recall where I read this (probably somewhere really intelligent like on facebook) but it was suggested that one of the things that is worth trying to to help put the spark back there is to “pretend” you are back dating again….put the effort in to organising dates and doing nice things for one another…and the deal is you both have to agree to do this….and to “pretend” that you are back there….you give yourself a time period to do this for, say 3 months…and from what I’ve heard from people that in a lot of cases this works really well, it reminded people what it was they feel for the other person and what it used to be like
lol, well it might of come from a great place like facebook. However, I do like the suggestion of pretend dating. Anything to add a little spark and keep your marriage exciting and attracted to your mate.
I once read…You don’t find a great relationship, you build one.
Oh that is a good saying and so true!
Good advice Shawn, relationships take work to make them work – great stuff!
Thank you for your kind words. And you are so correct. If you want your relationship to work there has to be work done to it.