In the series we are doing on the top five things to consider for starting your marriage out right. We have talked about dreams and how important it is to find someone whose dreams are close to your own and someone who you can dream with so your future gels together instead of separating you. Another important key in things to consider for starting your marriage out strong is the dreams of each others career or higher education. If one of you is in a stationary situation such as with getting a higher education but the other travels around the country for long periods of time how are you going to make that work in your relationship?
Are you in a situation that is long term and you are happy in such as a first step in your career? Then a new person comes into your life and it doesn’t seem to matter how attracted you are to them the fit with that person just doesn’t work. It would take a major life change, such as quitting your job or transferring to keep that person in your life. But there is a little whisper in the back of your mind that this is not working it’s just too much drama. Listen to that little whisper it will probably save you in making a decision that you could be very unhappy in.
Marriage is hard enough to keep together if there are whispers of unease or unhappiness just don’t follow those decisions. A relationship isn’t that hard to put together and if you are finding that it conflicts with your other major life decisions such as a job or your higher education something isn’t right. On the other hand, if your education is cramping some areas think about when you graduate will that fix the problem? You won’t be in school forever and if you and the person in your life can put up with temporary inconvenience then that is a situation that can be fixed.
While you are making decisions about your life remember that your significant other should add to it and make it richer. If either of your jobs conflict with the other person’s expectation of what married life would be like tread carefully into that relationship. While there are many changes that will occur during your lifetime at the beginning of a marriage is not always the right time to make them. Listen to your gut and follow your intuition that usually doesn’t steer you wrong.
Ron and Shawn make up the “Odd Couple.” We are a husband and wife team who have been together for the last 27 years. We have laugh, cried, fought, made up, and made more mistakes then any two people could. Through it all we have raised the greatest three kids in the world! We would like to offer you a free report we put together titled 10 Marriage Help Tips Report with video. Click here for the report. Here is a picture of us at the World Famous Ft Worth, TX Stockyards