Well here we are at our last point in the top five things to start your marriage out right series. Goals and goal setting in a marriage can be a very important thing especially for two people who are just thinking of starting their marriage out. You both have the responsibility of taking each others goals and combining them. Some goals you will realize aren’t as important as you thought and others will be goals you don’t want to leave behind.
Goals & Identities
The most important thing about goal setting is just talking with your spouse. You are no longer single and need to hear and understand what is important to the other person who will be sharing your life. Learning early if the goals that both of you had as single people can be brought into your marriage and shared with your partner is important. Do you share enough of the same interests and dreams that you can adapt and adopt some of each others goals so you aren’t giving up too much of your own identities?
Goals & Experience
As a single person most of our goals are short term goals such as finishing some form of higher education or landing that first real job, or perhaps your first real car purchase. Some of these will be scratched off your list and nothing builds self-confidence as well as having a goal and fulfilling it. That way by the time you become serious and in a committed relationship such as marriage you will have had some goals, met and fulfilled them giving you the experience of an adult.
Goals & Timing
Now you are ready to set some goals with your spouse. This can be in done is of short term and long term goals. It is important for both to be set. The most important thing is to communicate while setting these goals making sure that each partner is considered and the goal makes each of you happy. For short term goals it is best to have some that can be obtained right away and others you work for. These might include money and career opportunities. Long term goals can also include savings for a home and also planning on children.
Goals & Strength
So, when setting goals make sure to think of each person and if these goals express their identity. Let your goals build giving you a richer experience with each. Let goals come to fruition at different times so you can enjoy all of them. Remember the reasoning behind goals and the setting of them is to give you a road map through your marriage. To build similar experiences that will bond you as a couple and strengthen your pledge to each other.
Share with me some goals that have bonded and strengthen your marriage.
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